They said to the woman, “We no longer believe just because of what you said; now we have heard for ourselves, and we know that this man really is the Savior of the world.” John 4:42
It is the experience of every believer in Christ that at some point he comes to the same decision as the Samaritans who heard about Jesus from the woman at the well. Many – especially those who grew up in believing homes – trust in Him initially because of the influence of those they respect, such as parents. But there always comes a time when they have to face the decision on their own, a time when they have to decide for themselves whether Jesus is THEIR Savior or just their parents’.
Whoever coined the phrase, “God has no grandchildren,” was exactly right. I have done my children a disservice if I have not shown them by my words and my example how to establish a relationship with Christ personally. Of course, that relationship changes as they change in their maturity, but at some point I believe that they need to be reading the Scripture for their own direction from God. Time will tell whether my training of my own children was successful.
One of the better things we did in our family was to memorize parts of the Westminster Shorter Catechism. This is a wonderful summary of Evangelical doctrine that properly emphasizes the nature of God, the Scripture and salvation. It is thoroughly Trinitarian, and though it is often associated with the Presbyterian Church, its teaching does not violate the cardinal doctrines of any Christian denomination, as far as I can tell. I should emphasize that it shouldn’t replace the reading of the Scripture itself, but rather it wonderfully summarizes the Scripture in these key areas.
If we are going to properly prepare our kids to walk with Christ on their own, it is imperative that they see themselves within the larger context of the Church. This is where good Christian biography comes in to play. We especially found missionary biographies to captivate the attention of the kids, but our family time of devotion was a great opportunity to read aloud some of the classics. C.S. Lewis’ Chronicles of Narnia are wonderful stories that captivate the attention of kids in elementary school and up (I read them for the first time in college, and have read them several times since). And, while the stories are thoroughly engaging, they contain many tremendous allegories of the Christian life.
But none of this is profitable if our kids don’t see in us a vital walk with Christ ourselves. Just as we don’t want them believing solely because we tell them it’s the Truth, so we should not simply believe because someone has told US that Christianity is the Truth.